Top 5 | Stop Doing These Things & Be a Stress-free Blogger πŸ’»

 πŸŒŸ Hi, guys! I hope you’re having a wonderful day full of the best readings and the most incredible moments. ❀️Today I feel SO SO excited to share this spontaneous post with you, I confess that I had other plans for today, in fact, plans that I’ll not reveal because I’ll be carrying them out later, but hey, this topic came up in my mind very suddenly, and I want to take advantage of this inspirational moment to share with you these 5 key points that have helped me over time to blog stress-free. πŸ‘πŸ» Of course, I don’t have the absolute truth on any subject, but I always try to speak to you from my own experience and I hope together we can grow and learn from each other that’s the most important thing, so my comments are open to all of you, so you can also share your experiences and let me know what you think about each point that we’ll touch next. πŸ₯°

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I know exactly how blogging with stress feels like, and it’s not fun at all. I’ve been blogging for more than 4 years and I’ve gone through all the mind stages, so little by little I’ve been adapting myself and I’ve been going through different facets to which you’re exposed when you are a bloggerΒ πŸ₯Ί, in this case, a book blogger, but I talk about any content from the blogger world in general. This isn’t the first time I’ll talk about blogging and my experience in this regard, it’s the first time that I’ll touch precisely on the subject of stress and I’ll focus on those things that YOU SHOULD NOT DO in order to avoid this state and get into a nicer one to obviously enjoy the experience because, at the end of the day, we all started on this because we have something to say and a lot to share, and then we stay because we’re passionate about it and it makes us happy, so I think blogging is a wonderful tool for expression and I would like to be able to convey to you those things that I should have stopped focusing on to fully enjoy it. 😍
Now without further ado,
I hope you enjoy the post a lot & that it’s somehow useful to you. Thanks for always being there for meΒ πŸ’ž and let’s GET STARTED! 🌟 

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 πŸ’» Stop Focusing on the Wrong

What I mean by stop focusing on the wrong thing is basically when we put our energy and all our focus on aspects that take us off our axis, for example being super focused on our statistics when blogging, which I’ve noticed is one of the most common things that happen to all of us at some point during our blogger journey. I’ve been there, I recognize that at one point it was very important to me to have good statistics, they made me feel better about myself, as more valued or something like that, but then I began to relax more, I began to have other activities outside the blog and I realized that due to not having time to advertise so much my content had caused my numbers to drop considerably, and I understood that it was fine and that not because I had fewer visits my content was less good or less valid. Also thanks to taking away the focus and the importance of this, I’ve realized how refreshing and more relaxing it is to take care of my blog without even checking this type of thing, I’ve also noticed how the people who are still there are the most incredible and more faithful, and I’ve found many good friends who always support me no matter what, and that’s the key, guys, this is where you should put your energy on and not in a few simple numbers that at the end of the day mean nothing more than that.


 πŸ’» Stop Feeling Guilt

This year I’ve started my own business, I putt a healthy food, vegetables & green place, I’m obviously super excited about it and it has been a great blessing for which I’m very grateful. On the other hand, because this project has taken a lot of my time and energy, I neglected my blog a bit and that has made me feel quite culty, so I started to notice that I was uploading things simply for the sake of complying, you know? And at the end, every moment when I was doing something else with my free time, I felt guilty for not putting my time on the blog. All this ends up being unnecessary stress for me, so without a doubt, I’ve learned especially this year to remove my thoughts from guilt and to feel good doing other things that make me happy outside of my blog, and now I feel much freer and also more inspired to put this type of content on my blog. Guys, learning, growing, and moving forward is the natural thing in life, it’s good that we get confused and it’s good that we cannot do everything at once, but it’s not good to feel guilty for the decisions we make, as long as your heart tells you is the right thing to do and it’s what feels good, do it, and if that means taking your blog to the background for a while, no one will think that you no longer want to do it or aren’t capable of, believe me, we all go through the same thing and in the end, it’s worth it, because returning with a new, more positive attitude, will make your content flourishing and feels incredible. I can’t give it a 100% of me all the time but I can give my best and that’s enough.


 πŸ’» Stop Overthinking

Overthinking is the natural enemy of many of us and in the world of blogging, it can be an even bigger problem. When you dedicate yourself to creating content, whatever the platform, I think there’s always a little damn voice inside that tells you to re-think everything again, that what you’re creating can be better, that maybe it’s not enough, or maybe your readers don’t like it or whatever. THAT HAS TO STOP THERE, only you have the power to stop this type of compulsive thinking and I know it’s not easy, but you must exercise putting more faith in yourself and in your content, there’s no such thing as perfection and that’s an extremely important point when you’re part of these communication platforms. Could your review have been better? Maybe, but that doesn’t matter, because when you’re looking for perfection you’re forgetting why you’re doing what you’re doing in the first place, and you have probably stopped enjoying the process of writing and creating because again, your focus is in the wrong place. Sometimes our perfectionist minds can play tricks on us and believe me, I only have one piece of advice when you start to overthink things, and it’s TRUST YOUR INSTINCT, TRUST YOURSELF. When you think about uploading something to your blog, just do it, don’t think twice, make mistakes if it’s necessary, but never be left with the doubt just because you thought too much and that led to the worst scenario, you know?
If you feel it’s the right thing to change the style of your blog, change the format in which you write reviews, or perhaps change even the content of your blog, do it, trust your guts, in your uniqueness, and will work no matter what you do.


 πŸ’» Stop Comparing Yourself

I know this is one of the most challenging points of all, and you cannot deny that we have all compared ourselves to others at some point in our lives, in this case with respect to our blogs, how they look, or our own content. I know that none of us does it from a bad or dark place in any way, I think it’s something more natural in people than we’re willing to admit. But this doesn’t mean that we cannot avoid it, in fact, we can and we will! You must stop comparing yourself with others because you know what? NOBODY IS LIKE YOU, and that’s the point that’s something we should be proud of, no one writes like you, no one creates in the same way or thinks in the same way, much less we express ourselves in the same way, this makes the diversity when it comes to content be INCREDIBLY RICH. And believe me, you’re part of this diversity, trust your content, it’s super important that you do it, that you know that you’re writing something unique for the world, that comes out of you, and that alone is so wonderful. When I started blogging I didn’t see myself capable of being one of those people who feel super proud of their content, and I’ve really grown to become someone who’s proud of what post, and I know that it’s not the best content in the world, but it comes from someone who couldn’t even speak properly in English 4 years ago, and I think I’ve improved a lot and for those simple but great steps of growth you have to be proud of what you create and put out there, always compete to be better than you already were, there’s no one else, only you, your thoughts and your creation and I know you can make it incredible.


 πŸ’» Stop Setting Yourself Impossible Goals

This is so me, I used to set extremely high monthly goals in order to achieve everything I had to do and to read, post & basically for life itself lol, and with time I realized that it wasn’t worth it, honestly start to put myself smaller goals have changed a lot my way of living my days, and of course, above all, I lower my stress a lot, now I know that if I read less a day or simply post less, it’s fine while I’m doing it anyway but in a lesser extent, you know? If your goals are smaller, they’re easier to achieve, this makes you feel more relaxed and you can free yourself from all that unnecessary stress. It doesn’t make sense to set huge goals when it’s something that we ourselves can control, as in this case with our blogs. We already have enough challenges in our daily lives, I don’t see why it makes much sense to put more obstacles when it’s our entire decision, and please guys, celebrate each victory no matter how small. Did you read 50 pages today? That’s great!! Do you upload one post per week? amazing! Give yourself some of the credit you deserve.


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83 thoughts on “Top 5 | Stop Doing These Things & Be a Stress-free Blogger πŸ’»

  1. I love this post, Sofii! I mean, the advice is so simple, actually, but I’m still glad that you spell it out. I’m sure many of us need it written down, to really internalize it.
    I think the biggest problem I have with blogging is me wanting to get more comments on my posts. Which is just natural, I think. We all want validation for our work. But I guess you are right, it does not help me if I’m stressing myself out over it. It will just make me dissatisfied with my blog and I love that thing, I don’t want to give up on it. If people don’t want to take time to comment, it’s fine. I should not stress myself out over it.
    You are absolutely right, not overstress, not overthink and not feel guilty. Thank you. ❀

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    • I’m SO glad that you liked the post!! ❀️ They really are super simple points, but at the same time I feel like sometimes we forget, right? 😭 I totally understand that, I use to wanting more comments, I still think it’s a super special show of support, and my personal favorite, as it’s just super special that someone takes the time to write something for you, be it something simple, It’s a nice gesture, so I completely understand your thoughts. But I agree 100% that it can kill the love and passion you feel for your blog and that in the end is the most important thing to preserve in us. Yes!! exactly!! πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ» In fact, I’m a believer that once you put your focus on enjoying you’ll see the comments will start to grow on their own. 😊✨ Have a beautiful day & thanks for reading my post, it means a lot πŸ₯°

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  2. I definitely have felt a lot of blogging stress, especially recently as school has been taking up a lot of my blogging time, and it’s really easy to use statistics to measure my blog’s success, and to use statistics as validation for the work I put in. So, I think that one of the biggest things for me here would be to stop comparing myself to other blogs. Also, not feeling guilty about having less time to blog. Thank you for writing this post, it’s a really amazing list πŸ₯°βœ¨πŸ’•

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    • I absolutely understand what you’re going through, darling, in my case it’s my job that now needs more time from me, but in any case it’s the same and it’s important to learn that in different stages of life we ​​will prioritize some things over others and it’s SO natural, and at the end of the day if you have an hour for your blog or an hour to read, that’s fine!!!. πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ» It’s super healthy to take the time to adapt without stressing, so without a doubt, take it easy, it’s important that you manage to enjoy each activity you’re doing ❀️ & compare yourself is a facet, I think it will always happen, but as long as that doesn’t discourage you or affect you too much in a negative way then we can get over it and refocus on what’s most important, our babies blogs πŸ˜…πŸ’ͺ🏻✨.
      Thank you SO much for reading and taking the time to comment, it means a lot to me πŸ₯ΊπŸ₯ΊπŸ₯ΊπŸ₯Ί

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  3. Amazing post, Sofi! I agree with your points. Not overthinking definitely helps. I learned in my 4 years of blogging that it’s useless to do comparison as it will only add more worry and make us doubt everything we do. I think not worrying about schedule also help. We are here to share out thoughts, it’s hobby and love for books first and everything else comes second. It’s great when one plan out everything and stick to schedule but it’s okay if cannot stick to it and find time to follow it. Those who love your blog will sure read things you write no matter when you post and even when you take break and return back.

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    • Thank you SO much!!! I’m glad you liked it. ❀️ Undoubtedly thinking overthinking makes you doubt and feel insecure, and that’s a terrible combination when you have a space where you create content and share it. πŸ˜” OMG, YES!!! ABSOLUTELY agree, in fact I no longer follow a schudle, I used to do it, but at this moment it’s impossible for me and it only adds that unnecessary stress that we’re talking about, so an extremely valid point, I LOVED it! 😊 I’ve discovered that without a doubt the people who follow your blog will be there for you no matter the day you post. πŸ’ͺ🏻✨ Thank you very much for your incredible comment, you made a great point to discuss and thank you for taking the time to write, it means a lot. πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

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  4. Great post Sofii! These are all great reminders. I struggle with guilt about not being very active on my blog recently, but usually I try and think – well, when other bloggers post about how sorry they are for not being active because they’ve got school/work/other personal commitments, myself and everyone else totally understand and don’t feel upset at them at all! I should allow myself the same understanding. What you said about impossible goals is also a great idea, I find that approach helpful for non-blogging related activities too. Hope you have a good week! 🌻

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    • I’m so glad you like the post and I deeply appreciate that you took the time to read and comment on it. ❀️ You have a great point there!! Without a doubt, we always understand others when they need time for themselves, so we should understand and respect ourselves that way too, I loved that point of view. πŸ˜πŸ‘πŸ»
      Yes! having small goals is super positive in any activity, it makes you feel good to achieve those goals and at the same time they’re super achievable 😊✨
      Thank You!! Have an amazing day ❀️

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  5. This was such a great post Sofii! 😊 I have to say I fall into the trap of stressing out about my posts that if I don’t post when I’ve scheduled a post that the world is going to end. I need to learn to take a step back better. These tips were great! πŸ’•

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    • Oh, I understand you about that! πŸ₯Ί This year I stopped having a structure to upload my posts and in a certain way it can be difficult to adapt, but it gives you a freedom that I wouldn’t change, now I use that energy in my posts and no longer matters when or how many I ended up uploading.
      Thank you SO much for reading the post, honey, it means a lot ❀️❀️

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  6. As a newbie blogger, I definitely needed this post 😭 You gave some very valid points, sofi!! I’m struggling a bit with prioritising life before blogging and I think this helped a lot πŸ’– I set myself impossibly high goals and it causes stress so I really want to let myself off the hook for a while. Thank you for this ❀️✨

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    • Aww, you’re so sweet, I deeply appreciate your comment and I’m glad you liked it. ❀️❀️
      Of course it’s difficult when you’re super committed to your blog and suddenly you’re not finding the moments to blog, but taking the pressure off it’s the first step, take care of yourself and your other activities, you deserve some time for yourself too and remember that your blog It will always be there as well as this beautiful community 😌✨ & creating smaller goals for you is super healthy, you’ll see that it will also make you feel good to be able to reach them, cause when you know that you’ll be able to do it, you feel more relaxed and it also works better. πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

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  7. Great post! The stop comparing… easy to say haha. I visit blogs and tell myself β€œdon’t compare, you’re on different paths etc.” but i cant help haha. agreed with everything you said! i would add: don’t let blogging become a job if it is not a job. it shouldn’t take priority over health etc.

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    • I feel you!!! πŸ₯Ί I know it’s not easy to do, of all the points I think it’s the most challenging because it really should be a daily reminder, you know?
      OMG, Absolutely!! πŸ‘πŸ» I LOVE that, it’s not a job it’s a hobby! I should get a tattoo of that πŸ˜‚ protecting our mental health is the number 1 point always ❀️❀️❀️

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  8. The “stop feeling guilty” part resonated with me! I stopped blogging completely fall 2019 because I started university and didn’t have the energy to keep up with studying and reading for fun, and I’ve felt so guilty for it! So much so that I wondered if I should even bother to start up my blog again now. I managed to stop feeling guilty about it, luckily, and have reviewed 5 books since I started back up.

    Anyway, thank you for writing this blog post as a reminder to everyone that they are more than allowed to chill out, do their own thing, and still keep up blogging without the need to feel stress or pressure! It was a great read ❀

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    • YAY!!! First of all, congratulations for coming back and for your reviews!! β€οΈπŸ‘πŸ»βœ¨βœ¨ I think that when you like to do something a lot you’ll always end up doing it again and the most important thing at the end of the day is to maintain that passion and that beautiful feeling that your blog gives you, right? 😊
      I LOVE that you share your experience, thank you very much, I understood 100% how you felt and I think that many of us have been in that position, but I’m so glad that you have been able to leave the feeling of guilt behind, this year I’ve understood it myself and it’s liberating. 😌
      OMG, you’re an angel, I appreciate your words so much, it was a pleasure for me to write the post and I’m glad that we can all connect and know that we’re not alone with our feelings πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

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  9. First of all, congratulations on starting your own business, that’s HUGE!! I loved this post, and I believe it can definitely help us re-think our priorities. I’m super new to blogging but so far I’ve just been having a great time within the community and sharing what I’ve felt like at any given moment. I’ve found this community to be absolutely lovely and supporting, which is fantastic. I’m sure I’ll feel any of the ways you’ve mentioned in due time, and I’ll look back on this post to remember that we’re all doing this for fun. But for now, I’m just going to continue to enjoy this new endeavour!

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    • Thank you SO much, Maria, you’re so kind! πŸ₯ΊπŸ₯ΊπŸ₯Ίβœ¨β€οΈ I LOVE your energy, congratulations for starting this blogger path, that despite the points of this post, is an extraordinary journey of much learning and enjoyment, also the community is beautiful!! πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»
      YAY!! Enjoy!!! β˜€οΈβ˜€οΈ I already follow your blog, so I’ll be visiting it often ❀️

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  10. You really hit the nail on the head with this one. I can relate to every point you made here, especially the guilt regarding the lack of engagement I made with the community. It literally made me feel so bad because I felt like I wasn’t showing my appreciation enough. Thankfully, I’ve learnt to let go of that guilt because, like you said, we have lives outside of the blog too. Letting go of that guilt gave me a better perspective of the relationship I had with the blog too and it reminded me that this was just a hobby, not a job, and that the community is still the most supportive one out there.

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    • Absolutely agree! I think the positive of all this is that we can share our feelings and know that we are all in this together, knowing that you’re not alone nor are you the only one who has felt that way is also super comforting. 😊 I’m glad you have overcome that feeling of guilt, enjoy of each activity we do, no matter how small, is so important. πŸ‘πŸ» Thank you SO much for reading the post and commenting, honey, it means a lot! ❀️

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    • Aww, you’re SO kind, your words really make me very happy! ❀️ I am glad the post has been helpful in some way for you and without a doubt I’ll be doing more posts of this style, I love that we can all share our experiences πŸ₯°

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  11. It is very nice i remember one quote on your fourth point that is a flower never compete with other flower it just blooms and I am quite disagree with your last point because ever goal is possible to achieve and we must always set high goals and work upon achieving them we will surely get them but we must make short term goals along with long term goals please visit my blogs if you have timehttps://rakshasblogin.wordpress.com

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  12. I started blogging just a few months back and I was really excited initially, so I started posting a few articles. But, then I hit a roadblock and everytime I want to add a new article I get myself wound up in collecting the perfect information, perfect words and then I end up posting nothing.

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    • I’m a perfectionist too, so I understand you, sometimes our minds make us believe that we aren’t doing enough, but the important thing is to go beyond that and not listen so much to that little voice, because at the end of the day if what you post you do from your heart and with passion, will always be successful. πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»
      I wish you the best with your blog! ❀️

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  13. It is my first time to visit your site and I definitely agree! I love writing and expressing myself and being into blogging made me go beyond my limitations as an individual.

    I tend to become perfectionist but I reaize just enjoy and go with the flow.

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  14. Sofii, you give me a good nudge whenever I need it. It’s one of the reasons why I love your blog and most of things that were spoken here felt so relatable and helped me stop and catch a breath. I absolutely love blogging, but the commitment and the kind of energy and time it takes is something altogether. Most of the times I tell myself not to worry about the stats or the numbers, but it always does. I have made myself to stop overthinking and have started to enjoy writing. Your words definitely struck a chord with me and this is the kind of positivity I need in my life. Thanks for sharing with all of us these heartfelt and beautiful words!❀

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    • OMG, your words mean so much to me, it really makes me happy the post could be helpful for you and that you also found yourself in my words, thank you SO much for your comment! πŸ₯Ί πŸ₯Ί
      I know you can do it! going back to your roots and remembering why you started writing or blogging in general will always lead to enjoyment, so stay in that state of mind and you’ll see everything will flow much better too. You’re an angel, thank you again for your words & I wish you the best always. πŸ₯°β€οΈ

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  15. I really needed to read this right now. Throughout the day I was checking my stats constantly and was feeling anxious about not getting enough views. So, this piece of yours helped me to ease out a little bit and not worry about the number of views I get every day. Thankyou.

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    • Thanks to you for your comment and taking the time to read the post, it means a lot to me! & without a doubt, we should never lose the enjoyment, which can happen very easily when we focus on the wrong things like stats, but we have all been there so don’t get discouraged just go back to your center and remember all the positives and all the enjoyment that this generates to you and stay there! ❀️

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    • Thank you SO much, beautiful! I understand you, I often have those feelings too, but it’s good to know that we’re not alone and we have all felt that way at some point. Of course we shouldn’t, we do the best we can and that’s always enough. ❀️❀️

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    • I’m so glad you like the post, Nicole, it means a lot that you took the time to read it, thank you! ❀️ & I hope I explained myself well about that, I do think it’s great that we have huge goals especially in our life, but I mean small short term goals, this way we won’t feel so frustrated so quickly, you know? I’m glad we share thoughts. πŸ₯°βœ¨

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  16. Amazing tips! I stopped looking at my stats a long time ago, but it was still very easy to compare myself to others. But you are absolutely right, all of our content is uniquely ours and we should be proud of that. Loved this post πŸ₯°

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    • It means so much that you took the time to read it, thank you so much!!!! πŸ₯Ί I really understand that sometimes we can easily fall into comparisons, but no doubt no one is like us, and I can tell you that your writing is unique Stephen and you should be proud of it. πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»

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